first off.... no need to stare into your dogs eyes, thats actually threatening to the dog. second off, you should start training now, not after a year. this will prevent bad habits that are HARD to break as the dog gets old and starts to think theyre "ok" for him to do. third, get into puppy training, this WILL help you bond. you should ideally do this with your wife, this way you are both on the same page, and both bonding. fourth, sit down with the kids, tell them "X is what you do when the dog does X (insert bad behavior, and correction) if you dont want to help us, we can get rid of the dog" (not saying you would, but maybe if you put it out there as an "option" they might take a hint and start helping. fianlly, its great that youre trying sooo hard! im so happy to hear that. i know teens can be tough, and this is one of those situations that you just want to have them cooperate for once. now i can be done, with just you and your wife, but keep in mind that the dog will respect and listen to you and your wife, and not your kids. lets use recall as an example... if you and your wife work hard to train this dog and gain its respect and bond it will work well for you if tought well. say the dog somehow gets away from you outside one day... you (or your wife) call him back... he comes.... now lets say your kids didnt help out, the dog gets away on one of them, they call....nothing... they call....still nothing, but maybe a glance. hes thinking in his head "nuh uh, i dont need to listen to you, youre not my mommy or daddy". its going to be a lot easier if you can get them to all work together, but you can have some success on your own... i wish the best for you!